Wednesday I had a chat with the head of one of the departments I'm looking at joining. Then on Friday I told my boss I was leaving the department. He was not surprised, since he likely saw it coming - dreaded it perhaps? But he did seem relieved when I said I was leaving the department, not the company. He asked if there was anything they could do to change my mind. I said I didn't think so, but I wasn't going to tell him he couldn't try. After that I went out and got lunch. I came back to two IMs, both from ex-bosses, about joining their groups. I talked to one, and sent my resume to the other per request. I also created an internal resume that describes in more detail things I've done at amazon.
This morning, I replied to an email werner had sent asking if there was anything they could do to change my mind. I replied that a paid-off house, or even an Audi TT Roadster would certainly have an impact, but that seriously I didn't think so.
Later, Werner pulled me in for a quick chat. He'd talked to Michael, who is also apparently.. concerned about my leaving. I had told werner that /one/ of the reasons I was leaving, in a last-straw kind of way, was the review. Werner conveyed michael's comments that the 30 was because I left for a month with my code uncommented and because of the promotion, that it's very hard to get a 40 after a promotion, but that I was almost surely - I don't remember his exact words - going to get a 40 next year. I responded that I'd had to push my vacation back by two months at that point, bought my tickets and SAID I was buying my tickets, and even said it would be ok to push again if the company paid for the tickets, but nobody took me up on it. I also reiterated that I feel I've gone above and beyond WDE3 enough that even if I'm being graded on /that/ curve I should still have come out better. He then asked - again - if there was anything they could do to change my mind, a compensation adjustment perhaps. I said I /can/ be bought, but what were we talking about. He doesn't know. Suggested I talk to Michael directly. So now I have a mtg with Michael wednesday afternoon.
Why is the most stressful part the bit where they're trying to change my mind?